A backdate

this was written this year, on/for valentines day. i just never got around to putting it HERE....


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Some people say they are in love with their best friend...and that means they are married or seeing them, engaged or whatever. They mean it in a romatic sense, a "normal" sense, and while there is nothing wrong with that concept, it can also be taken another way. Its almost a very American way of thinking, that you can either love only one person at a time, or one person forever. While that may be true for some people, for others it is not. Every emotion has various degrees of being. If you can imagine it, it's probably there. Some people might be in love with an idea, with THE idea of love.. others might be in love with something someone does...the way they do things, how they do things... you can love unconditionally, no matter the cost, and to be painfully honest, some people forget that. When you imagine your life with someone, or two someones,three someones.. be it as a family, or as a cohesive unit, a partnership that is frowned upon, and devilized no matter where you go, who is to say that you are wrong? Why is it so wrong to feel so at home somewhere that you'll do anything to get back there? So what if you are in love with your best friend(s)? Why is that so wrong? Love isn't about sex, it isn't about mating, or any of that, although it does play a part in that.. love is about safety. Security, and intimacy that goes beyond sex. Love is when you feel comfortable enough to just curl up with someone, on the couch, on the floor to watch TV... to play video games... to play on a computer, a laptop, reading together, seperate things, but still sitting together...or even just curled up in bed together because sleeping alone feels so strange. Its about safety, security, doing whatever you can for each other to make sure they are safe, happy and whole. You can love, or be in love with someone and never have a sexual feeling about them. In today's society, being "In Love" and "love" have become synonymous with sex, and that is just isn't the case. One one sees themselves in the future with someone...that doesn't mean they see themselves married, joined, what have you..they see the safety, the love and the security that person or persons brings...and no matter what outside forces come along...be it a significant other or sickness or something else...they will always have their Home to go to....in that regard.. i can say that i'm in love with my best friend.